Monday, December 15, 2008

SEX IN UK BOARDING SCOOLS


Caldicott School, a boarding school for young boys in the UK, features in a Channel 4 TV documentary about sexual activity in the 1960s and 1970s.

(Caldicott: Forty years on, the schoolboys confront abuse - Times.)

Tom, when he was a child at the school, was abused by a teacher who taught French, rugby and cricket.

The teacher, who later became a headmaster, was hero-worshipped and feared by the pupils.

The teacher, during sex sessions with Tom, would speak about the sexual relationships he was having with women, often making very critical remarks about the women's bodies.



Alastair, when aged 11, was targeted by a science teacher.

Mark, who was a pupil at Caldicott between 1957 and 1963, was targeted by another teacher.

Mark says: “once you get over the disgust of being abused by a big, hairy, smelly adult man, you can do it ... over and over again.

“You have been groomed and you feel ... well, your parents don't want you because they have shipped you off to the Gulag ... and this guy seems to really like me...

“I would take off my trousers and he'd get me on his stomach and stimulate himself and passionately French-kiss me.”

He says it was like being “ridden like a blow-up doll”.

The teacher tasted of whisky. It was disgusting, he says -

Yet, he did value the feeling of being treated differently from other boys.

Tom remembers the French master "suffered quite badly from boils on the back of his head."

Mark remembers his abuser's child-like sense of humour. "We would all ... fall about laughing," says Mark. “He was in on the joke. (The teachers) behaved like children.”

Reportedly, none of the teachers told the boys that they must keep these things secret.

According to Mark, his abuser was reported by the school matron.

Mark's father then asked Mark if he had been abused. Mark said no.

Mark discovered that his abuser had more than one special friend.

"There was a chap that slept next to me and one night I told him I had heard that (my abuser) was sleeping with some boy. ‘Who isn't he sleeping with?' he replied."

Mark felt betrayed.

Forty years on, all the three 'abused' have partners and children.

But all three suspect that their problems in life might be related to the fact that they were 'abused'.

Alastair worried for some time that he was gay.

Mark was a drug user for a while.

Tom suffered for a time from depression.




Nick Fraser has written:

'THE IMPORTANCE OF BEING ETON: Inside the World’s Most Powerful School'

(Short Books £12.99)

According to Fraser, Etonians sometimes see their schooldays as being the best days of their lives. At Eton, boys are with boys.

In a review of Fraser's book in The Sunday Times, 4 June 2006, John Carey describes Fraser's view of Eton:

In thrall to the old-school ties - Sunday Times - Times Online

"Nothing in later life can compete (with Eton), particularly not women. There must be 'many hundreds of Eton lives', (Fraser) believes, in which women and wives are mere shadows beside the company of other men.

"Same-sex relations took place in the school, he recalls....


"Seniors demanding blow-jobs of younger boys, and invitations to mutual masturbation sessions, figure among his memories. 'Did I sleep with you?' is the opening remark of one old Etonian he meets.

"He was subjected to a furtive sexual assault by the headmaster, Anthony Chenevix-Trench, whose proclivities in this area were not made public until after his death..."


Nick Cohen, in an article about Paul Foot in the Observer, refers to Chevenix-Trench:

Guardian Unlimited Politics Special Reports NIck Cohen: The ...

"Even by the standards of England's public schools, Anthony Chenevix-Trench, (Paul Foot's) housemaster at Shrewsbury, was a flagellomaniac.

"Foot recalled: 'He would offer his culprit an alternative: four strokes with the cane, which hurt; or six with the strap, with trousers down, which didn't.

"Sensible boys always chose the strap, despite the humiliation, and Trench, quite unable to control his glee, led the way to an upstairs room, which he locked, before hauling down the miscreant's trousers, lying him face down on a couch and lashing out with a belt.'

"Naturally, Chenevix-Trench was promoted and became a headmaster, first of Eton and then of Fettes. Exposing him in Private Eye was one of Foot's happiest days in journalism.

"He received hundreds of congratulatory letters from the child abuser's old pupils, many of whom were now prominent in British life."

According to Fraser:

Etonians appear “arrogant pricks, closet homosexuals, members of a corrupt Masonic order, or at the very least, as Alan Bennett puts it, exotic creatures beyond the comprehension of lesser mortals educated at state schools”.

Godfrey Smith, in the Sunday Times, 28 May 2006, refers to some famous Etonians:

Reform school - Sunday Times - Times Online

Darius Guppy... went to prison for six years for trying to swindle Lloyd’s out of £1.8m by staging a fake jewellery robbery.

A rather similar fate overtook the playboy Etonian Lord Brocket, who once owned 42 Ferraris. When the classic-car market collapsed, he dismantled four Ferraris, hid them and claimed the insurance money.

He could hardly, however, match the notoriety of Crown Prince Dipendra of Nepal, who in 2001 in a drunken rage mowed down eight of his family, including his father, thus becoming king for a few minutes till he turned his gun on himself. Nevertheless he is listed on the Eton website as the king of Nepal.

Equally notorious is Lord Lucan, who killed his children’s nanny by mistake before going missing.

Simon Mann, son of a former England cricket captain, languishes in a Zimbabwean prison after being convicted of plotting to overthrow the government of Equatorial Guinea.

Ronnie Ferguson, father of the Duchess of York, and Lord Lambton were both involved in sex scandals, while the Tory minister Alan Clark was a renowned bounder who was once threatened with horse-whipping by a judge whose wife and two daughters he had seduced.

Jimmy Goldsmith was the kind of cad who kept a wife in London and a mistress in Paris.



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